I read somewhere the other day that
Your love language is potentially all you lacked as a child or growing up.
Well this got me thinking even though I wouldn’t really know what to say to that because somedays I feel like I dont even have a love language.
What exactly is a love language you might want to ask?
Love languages are ways to express love emotionally.
Everyone is said to have a primary love language which their significant other is supposed to learn if they want to love them properly.
I learnt there are basically five love languages, they are;
• Words of affirmation : these are verbal expressions of care and affection.
• Gifts: these are tangible and intagible items that make you feel loved and appreciated
• Acts of service: this is anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilty on your partner, from household chores to running errands etc
• Quality time: this is about giving your partner your undivided attention, spending time together, sharing something meaningful, listening and communicating.
• Physical touch: these are physical expessions of love whether sexual or platonic, such as holding hands, hugging , kissing etc
Experts say knowing your love language is one of the single most important things in a relationship and of these five listed above, each of us has a primary love language which speaks more deeply to us than all the others, so I took the a love language test to know mine.
If you are inquisitive like me and you google love languages, the first answer you are probably going to see is Gary Chapman’s book on love languages (which I intend to read now). The test I took is also from
Love Language Quiz and I had my result delivered to my mail along with some recommendations.
Ranking top on my list according to my result from the quiz is Words of affirmation. After which I have Acts of service and then Quality time. Physical touch and Receiving gifts come last for me but the igbo girl in me is kinda protesting that though. Lol
Anyways I don’t know if I want to totally go with the result of the quiz because, while I agree that words of affirmation does magic for me, I am also a lover of Physical touch. I am an absolute cuddle lover and I would much rather spend my day cuddled up with the love of my life , watching movies and eating a whole lot of junk food than doing anything else.
That said, I put it to you, do you know your love language? If you are in a relationship, have you been able to identify your partner’s love language ? and are you working with it? If you are, how well is it working out for you guys? I would really like to know.
At the end of the day, the bottom line is that not everyone expresses their love the same way , so being aware of the different love languages and paying attention to your partner can can help you understand your relationship better.
Happy healthy loving from me to you 😘
Ifeyinwa
